Have you ever had someone in your life who felt entitled to appear out of nowhere and throw all their emotional garbage on you?
Unfortunately, this is more common than it should be. Many people do not know how to manage their feelings and believe that those around them are obligated to bear all the negative weights they carry.
These people believe that we are their emotional trash and that our only function is to absorb all their dissatisfactions, hurts, and negative feelings, providing them with positive reinforcement for everything they feel.
Usually, these people are close to us, it may be a family member or even a friend. They believe that the level of intimacy we share justifies their selfish attitudes and that it is okay to pour all their dissatisfaction with life on us because whoever loves us must always be willing to listen to us.
However, they forget one thing: the basis of a healthy relationship is mutual respect and neither of us has the right to contaminate the other’s life with our problems and still believe that everything is fine.
Of course, we can talk about everything with our friends, share problems, insecurities, and bad times of our days, but in the right way, talking like adults, with maturity and responsibility, not just appearing out of nowhere on the person’s day, filling them up of negativity.
We all have problems and we never know what the other is going through, so we must be cautious when we talk about something personal with another person, considering that there are days when the other does not want and is not obliged to put up with everything we have to tell.
Nobody wants to have their insides filled with other people’s bad things, to hear endless complaints, to be mistreated by situations in which they are not even involved, or to hear bad things because of the mistakes of others.
Finding your problems in someone else is a great lack of maturity and is something that needs to be addressed.
Someone who makes everyone around you your emotional trash can never create a positive bond with anyone.
If you have such a person in your life, set limits, do not allow them to do what you want with you or you will never achieve your inner freedom. Focus on the people who respect you and make you grow.
And if you realize that you are making other people emotionally trashed, review your attitudes, seek expert help to break free from this habit, get to know a better version of yourself, and create a healthier and happier life.
Don’t let other people throw your “emotional garbage” at you. Each of us is a unique and special being, who has the right to live happily with good people next to us, so don’t settle for less than you deserve.
Things only go forward when we take control of our own lives and do not allow them to treat us as they please, but as we deserve to be treated.